Getting Over Someone

Basic question here: how can I tell when I’m over someone and ready to be with someone else?

- C.G., Boston, MA

That is a basic question, but not a simple one. I’m not sure I can even answer it.

Sometimes hearing someone else’s experiences put things in perspective. Here is a situation concerning a person I dated, how I personally view it, and how I make it work for me. Maybe this example will help clear things up a little bit for you too.

In my life, I’ve seen a lot of relationships and been envious of very few. I see a lot of phoniness, relationships of convenience, and people together for all the wrong reasons.

But I knew that my relationship with her was something incredibly, incredibly special. I’d never felt anything like that; it was something totally different than all the rest I’d ever been in. It was comparing apples to oranges, as the saying goes.

In every way, I found her to be the most beautiful thing that I’d ever seen. We showed each other our best and our worst and remained together because we believed in each other as individuals and believed in us as a couple.

It’s interesting to think of all the things we are taught and all we are not. People are taught a million things growing up: how to read, how to use a stove without burning their hands, how to fold a towel, how to drive, and so on.

But we’re never taught some of the things that are imperative in relationships; we’re somehow expected to learn them as we go and by trial and error. I, like many others, never learned how to trust someone to give them all of my feelings, so I’d always held something back, which isn’t fair.

I also never learned how to forgive someone that I loved when they hurt me. And I certainly never learned what to do when you find someone who is perfect for you. It sounds like such a great thing, but it can be one of the most overwhelming feelings you ever experience because you want it to work out more than you want anything else in your life.

And sometimes, by the time you start to realize these things, it’s too late to make everything right.

Making her cry was the worst thing I’ve ever done and just thinking about it hurts me more than anything I’ve ever lost, never achieved, failed at, or I could really explain here.

And now she’s gone. We had talked about “forever” but this isn’t the kind of “forever” I thought we meant.

Who we were at the time we made our memories, we’ll always be – that man will always love that woman and that woman will always love him just as much. I still miss so many things about her, namely counting on – and believing in – us.

I still think about her every day and wonder, wonder, and wonder. I made her an enormous part of my life and now that she’s gone, that life as I knew it is too.

The pain is normal. But don’t think that because you feel pain you can’t move on. What happened between the two of you obviously affected you, so the hurting is expected. Truthfully, and unfortunately, it may be felt for a long, long time.

If you think about it, you probably still don’t feel great about the moment you found out you didn’t get that job you really wanted or a pet that died when you were a kid. You may never feel perfectly fine about this situation either.

What I realized, and what you must too, is that you have to move on. They have. They have their own life going, and whether it’s them being alone or them being with someone else – it’s still them being without you.

There is no other option; you can’t stay closed off and emotionally unavailable forever in hopes they will change their mind about you or that it will work out somehow. Knowing when to let go and move forward it is the hard part.

You don’t want to do it when you’re emotionally unavailable, angry at life, or will be anything but the best person you can be to whomever it is you end up with next. I don’t know if you’re there. Maybe you don’t even know if you’re there.

Types Of Online Games And Its Popularity

Few years ago, thinking of online games was incomprehensible. Though internet was there, it was used for basic purposes like emailing and browsing for information. In the past few years, game developers have taken the world of internet by storm.

Now days, not only can you play them online, but they come for free. The opportunity to play free online games is with you 24 hours a day throughout the year. Either you download the games or you use them with particular browsers, Flash enabled.

Though some people do argue the authenticity of free online games in terms of disclosing private information and details, it is an undisputed fact that these free games does help to improve our minds, both young and adults.

How do online games help improve our mind? Thousands of free games are available categorized into different compartments such as arcade games, strategy games, action games, board games, puzzle games, shooting games and others.

Arcade Games- An innovation of the 1970s of neighborhood games played with coins, the arcade games soon enveloped the mind of gamers when arcade games opened online. Online arcade games are a rage these days.

Strategy Games- These games are time consuming and require tremendous practice. It is all about applying your mind to devise new strategies in order to win.

Action Games- The action-oriented games involve futuristic space adventures, fighting, and target achieving games where the players perform actions to gain the number one slot. Skeptics complain about the action games being too gross and bloody, but until one plays with a sane mind, there should not be problems!

Board Games- Evidently, online board games are the animated rendition of traditional board games such as chess.

Puzzle Games- They attract the interest of young and old alike. It sharpens the mind; mind is where all the action takes place.

Shooting Games- It is a safe way to vent your anger and irritation. They generally come under action games but has been kept in separate category due to its popularity.

Card Games- They continue to be popular since the ancient days. With online gaming, card games have become a favorite pastime.

All these games concentrate on churning our minds. Through our mind, we have to combat with speed and actions, make strategy to topple the opponent and be victorious. The opponent could be the computer itself or another human person sitting at another end.

It is amazing to see how the popularity has not ceased. Most of the games are available to players for free and some sites even offer bonuses on winning, like the casino games. You can actually earn as an online gamer. Whether you play for money or pleasure, online games are here to stay.

How To Find The Best Free Online Games

Online games are very interesting to play. When they are available for free, no one can resist playing them. Many people encounter the problem of finding sources for the best free online games. Even so, it is not very tough. Those who regularly play online games don’t have a problem finding interesting and suitable games.

There are free online games available on almost every game website. Certain websites are especially geared towards the game maniacs, and on these websites, many can easily log in and search for their favorite games. If you are looking for a specific game, you can type the name of the game in the search box, and then you will have it right in front of you. For example, if you are interested in a special kind of game, like war games, simply click on that option, or type “war games” in the search box. All of these sources for the best free online games are loaded with games for all kinds of players from kids to adults.

There are even certain websites particularly designed that specially serve specific groups of players. For kids of a very young age, the games have a very colorful design, and they rules are not difficult to follow. There is usually less competition and stress involved with these games.

The sources for the best free online games for teenagers and adults will tend to have games that are more complex, romantic in nature, fast, and tricky. There is more alertness required of the players of these games. Some of these online games charge for playing, while some of them are completely free. Therefore, one should keep in mind that it is a benefit to be able to play these games without spending a penny. The sources for free online games are visited and used the most.

You can find a variety of websites that are regarded the best websites for buying and selling video and computer games. On some of these websites, you can find things that are generally related to video games. They offer video game based greeting cards, video games wallpaper, and other things. There are many free online games that are available, and they can be shooting games, adventure games, sports, animated games, 3D games, cool games, hot games, fast games, flashing games, dragon games, war games, street racer, make up games, fear factor games, heart breaker games and more. Accessing these games is simple. All it takes is one click of a mouse.